After dating divorce advice
I share this now with a light heart, because five years after my separation, I have “acclimatized” and have since happily dated middle-aged men, many of whom are divorced and have children.In other words, my dating pool didn’t change, I did.I often coach my clients to come up with a list of “essential” qualities; qualities that are directly correlated with their happiness in the long-term.It’s much easier to be open to a variety of high-quality men if you are more focused on character and how they treat you, rather than their age, height or bank accounts.
However, if despite your efforts, you find that you are unable to make this shift on your own, seek out professional help such as a therapist and/or a coach, develop a yoga and mindfulness practice, and emerge yourself in a supportive environment with like-minded people and uplifting content (books, audios, podcasts, etc.) In addition to feeling better in your everyday life, your experience of dating will be radically different.
This includes being open to dating much older men, who may have children, and focusing less on physical traits such as height (a big one!
), body type, and hair (or the lack there of.) Years ago, after my own broken engagement, I went back on-line and was shocked to see that many of the men showing up in my search were balding, divorced, and had children.
And so, should you find yourself dating after divorce, it is important that you be patient with yourself.
Depending on the nature of your divorce, and how much time has gone by, you may be more or less open to actively looking for love.